By strong, I mean mentally. Capable of lifting twenty tons all by sheer will alone. Maybe a touch of wily resourcefulness at that. Now that's what I look for in a partner. Someone who won't wring their manicured french tips helplessly moaning about things they can't do.
And focus on what they actually can do.
Unfortunately guys don't often look for such old-fashioned values in their partners when they go out searching. Far more interested in what's superficial than what's underneath. Gorgeous giggling trophy wives / husbands are what they bring home. Bright teeth, shiny smiles, porcelain skin - all very nice treats to have in fair weather when things are going well.
What are you saying, doctor?
But when hard times follow - as it sometimes must, all that doesn't help much. When poverty and sickness scurries in the back door, that's when you start getting the measure of a relationship.
Paul : Your husband is in a coma.
Wife : OMG. What do I do? I don't know anything! The bills! The wages! The house! The car! What do I do!
Paul : It won't come immediately. You can take your time.
Wife : I don't even know how to drive! I should just die!
Or the other extreme of shell-shocked ditz astonishment. Just had a preview earlier this morning.
Paul : Your husband is in a coma.
Wife : Can he go home tonight?
Paul : Your husband is in a coma.
Wife : So not tonight?
Paul : Definitely not tonight.
Wife : You mean he can go back tomorrow?
Then there's the disappearing act as well.
Paul : Your husband is in a coma.
Wife : Husband? What husband?
Paul ; Wait, where are you going?
Wife : To the bank! Uhh.. I mean going home to pack.
Paul : For your husband?
Wife : If you say so.
Some of the common reactions you tend to see in the intensive care unit.
When you've seen seemingly capable spouses fall apart as often as I have, you come to realize that a pretty face doesn't matter. At all. When you're wounded and disabled in the intensive care, what you need is a spouse who will stand up.
And refuse to fall. Now that takes strength.
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See but people don't think about these things, do they? It's soooo hard to find someone who is not obsessed with their own looks or how fit they are bla bla bla...and many case expects the same as well.
Someone who will stay put and fight for you when the shit hits the fan. Aye, that is the measure.
Question is, how many would meet this measure?
Well, that's true enough.
Twist in life really tests the limits of a relationship.
HAH owh well, that's husband and wife for you! Goodness I'd really do wonder how things are gonna be when I start practicing medicine >.<
I guess I would just be emotional be the wife at the same time XD
Ahhh, but people will be people. What frustrates me sometimes is... even when you already know this, you still try your luck and find a gorgeous boyfriend / girlfriend who ALSO will be there for you through good times and bad.
I guess it's because we still want to get the best in life.
Kane
LOL. the last part was freaking hilarious. i guess i shouldnt read your blog in the office then.......
i would say that 20 inch sculpted biceps may itself be a sign of mental fortitude. after all, it's hardly the easiest thing in the world to achieve, male beauty.
Hard to find these days, thompson boy but they are out there.
Very few, life! So we must hold on to the gems.
Nothing like a test to make or break, jon.
YOu'll see all sorts of people, tempus :) From all walks of life! And learn how to deal with them.
Well looks don't last forever, kane.
Pretty sure it would have happened before, joshua :P
YOu've got a point, quicksilverlining. :)
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