Frequently I hear married people moan about not knowing their much maligned spouses well enough. Happily-ever-afters don't come that easily after the wedding. Obviously they didn't have the age-old adage of 'Marry in haste, Repent at leisure' hammered into them repeatedly.
Perhaps they were brought up on a steady diet of classic Disney fairytales which would explain the irrational urge to irrevocably commit to a total stranger - no matter how uncommonly handsome! - the moment he claims an introductory kiss. And yes, I'm looking at both of you shockingly impulsive gals, Sleeping Beauty and Snow White.
Even the Little Mermaid.
Aurora : But he's my true love!
Paul : Seriously. You knew all that after a song and dance in the forest?
Aurora : But we had lots of chemistry!
Paul : That's lust, honey. You don't build a marriage only on that.
Aurora : You don't?
Paul : Not really.
Aurora : Umm.
Snow : But my prince saved me with true love's kiss.
Paul : One Heimlich kiss doesn't make him any less of a stranger. Do you even know his name?
Snow : Umm.
Ariel : Hey, don't pick on them!
Paul : You sacrificed everything you had for a hunk you saw lying unconscious on a beach.
Ariel : Umm.
Not that I wouldn't have done the same. I mean, Prince Phillip from Sleeping Beauty? Hubba hubba oh come to me, you sexy man. Certainly would have slayed a dragon for him. Prince Eric from the Little Mermaid? Yeah I would have left the sea for him but I would probably have kissed him the moment I landed on shore.
But those are Disney cartoons. In real life? I think I would be a little more cautious about leaping into such monumental life decisions based solely on a pretty face, a great physique and some raging pheromones.
Although throwing caution to the wind seems to be the motto for my friends. As it turns out, Pretty Panacea - our very own Snow White actually does behave as if she lives in a fairy tale. It didn't take very long after meeting her northern prince that she impulsively decided to marry him.
After meeting him in person for a total of three weeks at the most.
Three weeks. I've had a longer affair with a frozen sandwich.
Yes, I know Panacea has been talking to her prince over the internet for almost a year. But does sharing e-mails and instant messages every few days really substitute the simple act of getting to know a person with an actual live conversation? Undoubtedly flawless internet personalities are frequently edited to present only the shiniest best without revealing any of the inevitable blemishes.
I bet Panacea never even googled his name.
Surely there is time to slowly build on a relationship before rushing to sign the marriage certificate so hastily.
Perhaps they were brought up on a steady diet of classic Disney fairytales which would explain the irrational urge to irrevocably commit to a total stranger - no matter how uncommonly handsome! - the moment he claims an introductory kiss. And yes, I'm looking at both of you shockingly impulsive gals, Sleeping Beauty and Snow White.
Even the Little Mermaid.
Aurora : But he's my true love!
Paul : Seriously. You knew all that after a song and dance in the forest?
Aurora : But we had lots of chemistry!
Paul : That's lust, honey. You don't build a marriage only on that.
Aurora : You don't?
Paul : Not really.
Aurora : Umm.
Snow : But my prince saved me with true love's kiss.
Paul : One Heimlich kiss doesn't make him any less of a stranger. Do you even know his name?
Snow : Umm.
Ariel : Hey, don't pick on them!
Paul : You sacrificed everything you had for a hunk you saw lying unconscious on a beach.
Ariel : Umm.
Not that I wouldn't have done the same. I mean, Prince Phillip from Sleeping Beauty? Hubba hubba oh come to me, you sexy man. Certainly would have slayed a dragon for him. Prince Eric from the Little Mermaid? Yeah I would have left the sea for him but I would probably have kissed him the moment I landed on shore.
But those are Disney cartoons. In real life? I think I would be a little more cautious about leaping into such monumental life decisions based solely on a pretty face, a great physique and some raging pheromones.
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| Panacea : I'm getting married. Paul : You've only known him for three weeks in total. Panacea : But it's true love! When we're together, it feels like... Paul : Are you gonna break into song like a Disney princess? |
After meeting him in person for a total of three weeks at the most.
Three weeks. I've had a longer affair with a frozen sandwich.
Yes, I know Panacea has been talking to her prince over the internet for almost a year. But does sharing e-mails and instant messages every few days really substitute the simple act of getting to know a person with an actual live conversation? Undoubtedly flawless internet personalities are frequently edited to present only the shiniest best without revealing any of the inevitable blemishes.
I bet Panacea never even googled his name.
Surely there is time to slowly build on a relationship before rushing to sign the marriage certificate so hastily.
2 comments:
I don't know about that. Somehow I landed in on fairy tale one way or another.
It really has been just facebook and line messages with several photo exchanges electronically for the past 8 months.
But somehow, when I spend 3 short days with him last week, it was magically and unbelievable.
As much as I believe that love at first sight as well as concrete physical relationship is the key to successful ones; we managed to pull a LDR quite steadily.
Maybe there isn't much or even enough physical contact time or talk to begin with; but spending time together within the short period of given time was, exasperating.
Scams do exist, but somehow or someway, some people do get lucky.
Maybe it's just me but i absolutely agree with "absence makes the heart fonder". Living together, now that's the real challenge! I'd suggest try that out first, before signing that cert.
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